Wednesday, December 31, 2008
For me 2008 started off as a fantastic year. Near the end its had some hiccups in regards to work, but I'm back on track.
So many things to be grateful and focus on.
-ds making the rep hockey team
-trip to the wheels inn
-impromptu trips overnight to Toronto (3 of them!!!)
-new computer for mom (laptop)
Gratitude was my word for 2008 and its been so true. I've had so much gratitude!!! Thank you 2008 for being a great year.
I'll blog tomorrow about my goals for 2009 and my new word ;)
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
1. Write your own perfect eulogy. Commit to one page. How would you like your eulogy to read when that inevitable moment comes for all of us?
2. Sign up for one course. It could be a cooking class, french lessons or a self development course. ANYTHING! I dare you to search the internet after reading this newsletter and sign up for something with your credit card and make the commitment.
3. Eliminate one thing for an entire year. It could be alcohol, a certain food or a draining person in your life. Take one minute and write something down that you would like to remove from your life and do it for one year.
4. Plan and invite people to an appreciation party. Choose five to ten people in your life that you truly appreciate and invite them to this party. At the party do a little speech telling each person why you love them so much. If this scares you then write it down and give it to them in a card. BUT, set the date and invite those people now!
5. Go on a date with yourself in the month of January. Set this date aside now and plan a day where you get to do everything you like doing. At the end of that day, take a moment to write to yourself. While writing, talk about what you want for the rest of your life.
6. Go to the bank and tell them that you would like to have $100 (or more) automatically taken from your account each month and put into a separate account. In the month of December, 2009, buy someone a gift that they could never afford but have always dreamed of!
7. Go online and learn a simple card trick and then have fun doing this trick at parties.
8. Start a conversation with a stranger once a week.
9. Buy tickets to a show or an event that is unlike anything you would normally buy tickets to.
10. Stand up for yourself. If someone acts inappropriately and you know it then say something about it. You are too big to be small.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
"Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful."
Norman Vincent Peale
"May peace be more than a season,
may it be a way of life"
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Some people bring unexpected lightness and comfort to your life. They crackle with energy, practically electrify you with their presence. And then there are those who leave you feeling stressed out. Or guilty. Or exhausted down to your very last molecule. I call them energy vampires, and obnoxious or meek, they come in all forms. The sob sister, for one, always considers herself the victim. The world is always against her, and she'll recount every horrible thing that has happened to her, wallowing in every perceived slight. The charmer is a constant talker or joke-teller who has to be the center of attention. The blamer, on the other hand, doles out endless servings of guilt. And then there's the drama queen, the co-worker who claims she almost died from a high fever or the neighbor who lives in extremes of emotion—life is unbelievably good or horrifically bad.
No matter which type of energy vampire you're dealing with, you're allowed to walk away. Many of us find this really hard to do. We're afraid of being thought of as impolite; we don't want to offend people. But there are plenty of ways to remove yourself from a killing conversation. When leaving isn't an option, you can still maintain your energy level by making a few minor adjustments.
Recognize the Signs
One of the first things to do is to recognize when you're being drained, and that begins with tuning in to your physical reactions. Is there a tightening in your chest when a certain person enters the conversation? Do you feel tired when you hang up the phone after speaking with someone? Does your head ache, or do you feel what I call "slimed" when another guest at a cocktail party starts talking to you?
Take a Deep Breath
The moment you feel zapped—or hemmed in, or stressed out—I recommend taking a breath. Breathing is a wonderful way to center yourself. Just follow the breath and tell yourself that you know what's happening and you can deal with it. It's important to remember our individual power. I know from working with patients that we can lose it easily. The minute somebody comes in who's bossy or blaming, we feel diminished and tense up. If we can focus on the breath, or on an image of a striking sunset or a view from a mountaintop, the tension will drift away.
You can also use some of your own subtle energy to counter the effects of an energy vampire. Visualize a protective white light around you: an energy shield. You can still hear the person who's yelling at you or blaming you or pushing herself into your sphere, but she won't cut into you so viscerally anymore. You've created a buffer zone, where her negative influences can dissipate.
Setting boundaries is another way of protecting yourself; you draw a line saying, for instance, "This is what I can do for you, and this is what I can't." You don't have to convince the vampire of the rightness of your stance. Getting defensive simply adds to the negative charge of the encounter. You want to remain neutral. When someone starts pushing your buttons, and you start sizzling inside, you've got to make the decision not to react.
I also suggest you step back and think about what type of people aggravate you, because I believe that one law of energy is that we attract what we haven't yet worked out in ourselves. If I'm a very angry person, I'll find myself surrounded by angry people. By paying attention to the people who seem so draining, you might discover something you need to address. It has been my experience that once you've worked through a particular issue, you're no longer worn out by that kind of energy vampire. And the vampires, robbed of a source, move on to more easily drainable audiences.
By Judith Orloff, MD
Monday, December 8, 2008
Okay so this below quote just sums up what I try to tell people! SERIOUSLY! Pick your friends that don't drain you. Leave the energy vampires at home ;) or better yet their home. Say positive things! Don't say negative thoughts! I so love the below quote! LOVE IT!
"You will find yourself refreshed by the presence of cheerful people. Why not make earnest effort to confer that pleasure on others? Half the battle is gained if you never allow yourself to say anything gloomy."
Lydia M. Child
1802-1880, Abolitionist and Writer
--- Abraham Hicks
Excerpted from the workshop in Chicago, IL on Sunday, April 25th, 1999
Saturday, December 6, 2008
I guess what I'm saying is so far, so good! Its all in the attitude ;) it really is!!!!
I love spring because its the fresh renewal.
I love summer because the heat and beach and my pool ;)
I love fall because of the crisp air and smells.
I love winter because of the fun and in an odd way, the warmth it brings me.
Life is good. Enjoy it all.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
1. Time Is the Best Gift
This year, put "quality time" at the top of your to-do list: quality time with your family, friends, neighbors, and special coworkers. Just taking a quiet moment to tell someone how important they are to you can mean so much more than any gift. Consider organizing a casual potluck for your friends and neighbors -- each can bring their favorite holiday dish, and perhaps you can spread the spirit by caroling after the meal. If entertaining stresses you out, get together for lunch at your favorite diner or coffee shop. And whether you've got teens or toddlers, a family movie night is a relaxing way to spend time together.
2. Keep It Simple
Probably the No. 1 reason for out-of-control stress is trying to overdo it. If you're planning your own shindig, or sorting out gifts for your extended family, don't feel obligated to make it to every single party, or buy for the whole office. Try our quiz to see if you're in danger of overdoing it.
3. Forget Perfect
Does your daydream holiday feature you as the ideal, apron-clad hostess presiding over a magazine-style home? Forget it. Trying to attain perfection could be a recipe for disaster. Better to focus on friends and family, and leave the super-hostess mantle to the professionals.
If you're dedicated to throwing the best party ever, then plan ahead. Decorate the weekend before. Plan a simple menu so you're not slaving in the kitchen while your guests are enjoying the party. Ask your guests to bring appetizers so you can focus on the main course. But ultimately, remember that the best parties happen when the hostess has fun, too.
4. Give Yourself a Gift
It's fun to give to others, but in doing so we often forget to treat ourselves. So go ahead and splurge on that sexy red sweater you've been eyeing. Schedule a 30-minute massage. Bake that chocolate cake you've been craving. (You could share the leftovers with your coworkers!) Or plan a quiet evening at home with a special someone and just the lights of the Christmas tree to keep you company.
5. Get in Touch with Your Spiritual Side
Whether you're religious or not, the holidays can be a time for giving thanks, and for taking stock of our lives and the larger world around us. Many people find themselves drawn back to church at this time of year. The ritual of the ceremony and the quiet moments of prayer can be soothing, and even humbling; a reminder of the spirit of the season. But if you don't wish to attend an organized religious event, meditation can be an outlet for your psyche. No matter what you decide to do, set aside some time for reflection.